PLEASE don't be the guy who steals my drawers!

If you always do what you always did then you'll always get what you always got.


It sounds so simple but we do it all the time. What is THAT about? Every time something goes south whether it be a relationship or really pretty much anything we vow never to make the same mistakes again yet almost inevitably we end up in the same place.


That's how Einstein defined crazy... doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. That IS crazy!


I have friends who are always saying they want a boy to dote on them, to make them feel like the are the most important girl in the world but the second they find a boy that actually wants to do that they freak. WHY? Why can't we actually want what we want? What are we so scared of?


I have a theory:   We only want the ones that don't want us.


That guy...the one that DOESN'T want me MUST be the the best one. I mean... if he doesn't like me he must have impeccable taste. "I WANT THAT GUY! The one that doesn't want me!".


We spend ridiculous amounts of time fretting about what we can do to make him realize that he really does want us. We pick apart every second, every sentence, every text... EVERYTHING... trying to "read between the lines". WHY? If he was into us we'd know about it. I think it's more than the thrill of the chase. I think we're just gluttons for punishment.


Sadly however any guy dumb enough to be into us must be an idiot..."What a loser! What kind of idiot thinks I'm that great? NO WAY! I don't want that dummy! LOOOOSSSSEEERRRR!"


How sad is that? We talk about how we love ourselves, girl power, yada yada yada but we honestly doubt why anyone would think WE are awesome. Maybe WE are the ones with the problem.... just sayin...


I think it's time to accept that there might be a boy out there who immediately thinks we're amazing. It might just be possible that someone who makes time to hang out with us, doesn't dodge phone calls (maybe even wants to talk to us A LOT) or says how cool he thinks we are isn't necessarily a crazy stalker with no life... it might just mean he thinks we're pretty neat and might want to get to know us better.


Of course there is still the risk we might find our old panties or used dental floss in his truck and then I'd suggest we might wanna reevaluate the "crazy stalker" notion BUT I think it's worth the risk to let somebody like us. I think we're pretty cool and I'm not sure why we doubt that someone else might think so too.