To all those single men in my general age range (although I'm sure this could be applied on a broader scale I can only speak from my experience). Heartbreak sucks. Someone screwed you over and yeah... it blows... NEWS FLASH... It sucks for chicks too! I'm sorry that things didn't turn out like you planned. I'm sorry that you were hurt. Been there... done that... but it wasn't me. It is not the job of single women to put up with copious amounts of your bullshit while you "figure yourself out" or while you tiptoe around a relationship. Either you're in it or you're not. I have my own baggage to tote around and I have no intention of dragging yours around too. You can walk beside me and we can carry ours together but if you can't carry your own well, I can't help you. Now before anyone gets their panties in a wad, this is NOT directed at any one person. It is a general observation of grown ass single men in general. Now I still love me some men and I'm not hating on anyone.... I still like you and all I just want you boys to know that the luggage rack is over there... load your shit up on it if you need to but I won't be carrying it for you.
I wrote this a while back but I felt like it was missing something... it was. Here is the addendum.
To all those single ladies out there, if a man is telling you he's not ready don't get the crazy idea that for you he will suddenly BE ready. He just told you he's not. You can't get upset when whatever the two of you had going hits a wall. It was inevitable. You can't force someone to be over heartbreak. Stop trying to carry his luggage "just for a little while". Why do we always want to take in the little bird with the broken wing? There is a process to healing and it's not fair to either one of you to take on other peoples luggage when yours is already so heavy. You'll just end up falling all over the place and looking like an idiot. Sometimes men don't come right out and tell you they're still a hot mess but there are always signs and yeah...it kinda sucks to have to constantly be looking for "signs" but unless you enjoy getting your heart hurt then you better get good at it. I really think when the time is right you will find someone who's luggage is as manageable as your own and together you can traverse your adventures together.
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