I wonder what makes some relationships last and others fall apart... I wonder what the key is. I've witnessed couples I would have bet money wouldn't last a year stay together for years and years and some I never thought would end fall apart. So what's the difference? I have a theory... write this down because clearly I'm an expert on this....
I don't think its "love". Lots of couples "love" each other. Love is a living thing and it changes. It may start as passionate and intense but will hopefully evolve into mutual respect and even a comfortableness<< (yeah... I make up words). You can "love" someone and want to punch them. Every relationship will go through rough times. Sometimes you just won't like each other very much but you can still love each other.
I don't think it's "friendship" either. Friendship I think is a VERY important ingredient in a lasting relationship but it can also evolve and doesn't have the power to keep two people together.
It's not sex either cuz let's be realistic... that will waiver too. Kids, jobs, responsibilities and American Idol will start taking up some of the time that used to be filled with passionate sessions.
I think the key is to have all of those things but MOST importantly a commitment. Not the "well I promise for right now" kind. The "when I say til death do us part I mean I'll kill you first". Of course I'm not really advocating murder but I think if you can find a friend that you love and want to spend your life with they also have to agree that this commitment is real. Sometimes the commitment will be the only thing that pulls you through. Relationships are hard and there will be times when it may seem much easier to just give up if the "commitment" isn't there. I think that years down the road the fact that the two of you have made it will be so much sweeter because of the hard times you survived. If you can find someone that has the same concept of forever then just maybe you have a chance.
Well I hope everyone is paying attention cuz if there's one thing I've proven it's that I know how to stay married...
love this post girlfriend. I agree completely and I just might copy and past this blog (with all credit to you of course) and email it to a certain somebody in my life.
ReplyDeleteWhat relationship is NOT going to have problems????!!!!! It's getting down and dirty and fighting thru it. Then you can say WOW! Look what we got through! Oh dont get me started... I might have to blog on this. Great topic.
Thanks Annie! I really feel like that is THE key to a lasting relationship. I don't really want the blog to be ALL about relationship stuff but it's what's been on my mind lately. AND I think it'd be awesome if just one person could get something good out of me ranting!
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